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Teaching Responsibility with the Jewel Method

Published: May 19, 2015 · Modified: Oct 4, 2017 by Ashley Phipps · 817 words. · About 5 minutes to read this article. · 7 Comments · This post may contain affiliate links · This blog generates income via ads and sponsored posts · This blog uses cookies · See our privacy policy for more info Filed Under: Family

Most of you know that we have two children.  They are really good children, I couldn't be more lucky to have them in my life!  But my kiddos thrive on routine.  They love to know what is expected on a daily basis and the more I adhere to a routine the better my children thrive.  Even with our best efforts though the morning and evening routine tend to struggle a bit.  I have never seen someone take so long to get ready in the morning, or evening...and for some reason even though they are only required to do they same three or four things every morning and evening, they seem to conveniently "forget" what they should be doing and end up playing instead.  So we decided to take action!  And we finally figured out how to teach responsibility with the jewel method.

Teaching Responsibility with the Jewel Method

Teaching Responsibility with the Jewel Method

There are MANY chore charts, reward systems and even systems who use jewels, I have read all about them.  I have tried nearly all of them too.  But after a lot of effort, trial and error and about a year of perfecting, we came up with a system that works really well for our family!  Here is how it works...

We have a large jar full of craft jewels similar to these HERE (affiliate links may be contained in this post).  And my children both have plastic jars with lids where they can place their jewels as they earn them.

Teaching Responsibility to Kids

Earn Jewels

Our children earn jewels for doing basic things without being asked twice and in a reasonable time frame.  They earn jewels for things like putting on their clothes in the morning or their pj's at night, making their bed, brushing their teeth and taking a shower etc.  

If we have to ask more then once, they do not earn the jewel.  

Teaching Responsibility to Children with the Jewel Method

Redeem Jewels

Earned jewels can be redeemed for things like staying up an extra 20 minutes to read in bed, watching a 30 minutes tv show, playing an extra game with mom or dad etc.  Jewels are mainly redeemed for things that are special but that we would allow our children to do anyway.  So they have to earn any and all tv time etc. or the privilege of staying up late to read.  It is wonderful because there is no fighting about the tv anymore.  If they do not have a jewel to spend, they do not get to watch a show!  (see Jewel Free Time for exceptions to this)

My husband has also started allowing them to redeem jewels for a slushie.  They have to have 20 jewels saved up in order to get this though on a Saturday.  This is teaching them to think about how they want to spend their jewels and giving them motivation to earn them and not spend them all watching tv.  (I know...I can't say a slushie is a better choice then watching tv...it's just different.)

Teaching Kids Responsibility

Losing Jewels

We take jewels away for attitude or back talking, rude behavior or disobeying family rules.  When they disobey, I simply ask them to give me a jewel.  It's a no-yell, no-argue way to discipline the kids and a great way to keep behaviors in check as needed.  I don't try to correct every behavior at once, but I will focus on one area at a time.

Jewel Free Time

Occasionally we have jewel free time.  Vacations are jewel free time and often on Saturday morning we will allow our kids to watch a couple of shows without needing to redeem jewels.  This allows us to stay on track and have a system in place that works well for our children however we are flexible as needed too.

 

This system has worked really really well for us!  My children LOVE earning jewels and count them every night!  They also really like to select their own jewels too.  And if my children want to earn their jewels, they have to be responsible in the tasks they have been assigned.

Currently, my children can earn 7 jewels a day.  Three in the morning (get dressed, make bed, brush teeth) and four in the evening (shower, pj's on, brush teeth, room cleaned).  With the possibility of earning 7 jewels a day, it becomes possible to stay up late to read a book often, redeem them on the weekend for slushies and watch an occasional tv show.  My children aren't deprived in any way and have to "earn" many privileges in our home.

This has been such a great way to instill a sense of responsibility and accountability in our children.  And after over a year of using this method, we still love it!

How do you teach your children responsibility?

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Comments

  1. Brea

    May 20, 2015 at 4:09 pm

    I love this idea! We've been working on responsibility and this is fantastic! Do you also utilize a chart? I have found that having a daily chore that we do as a family has helped, too (Monday's are bathrooms, Tuesday's we dust, etc.) 🙂

    Reply
    • Ashley Phipps

      May 20, 2015 at 4:36 pm

      Oh yes I completely agree! An organized chore chart is so important! I love how you organize yours by day. I actually have my free printable chore chart I use for my kids available here! http://www.simplydesigning.net/free-kids-chore-chart-printable/ It is working really well for our family and little ones.

      Thanks for stopping by!

      Reply
  2. Heaven

    November 01, 2015 at 10:24 pm

    I've never heard of using jewels before. With six girls I think this would be a hit! Pinning. Thank you for the idea.

    Reply
  3. Brooke

    January 28, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    I love this idea and have been trying to come up with my own system for several months now. I was just curious how many jewels your kids have to turn in to watch a show.
    Thanks so much for sharing!

    Reply
  4. Stephanie

    March 03, 2016 at 2:32 pm

    I love this idea! I have been doing basically the same thing, but with an app on my phone. They get "stars" instead of jewels and they can cash them in for certain things. But, I like the jewel and jar idea because it's something they can see everyday, without having to ask for my phone. My daughters like the app I have and love to count their stars, but I don't like them constantly asking for my phone to see it, and it also creates the possibility of them messing it up by accidentally tapping a star space which will add one or remove it, and I may not know.
    So, I was just curious how you incorporate this jewel method with your newer chore chart? You said some chores are able to earn money, etc and you also said your kids can earn 7 jewels a day. Is this still the case, or what have you altered to use both methods.. will they get a jewel for every completed chore on the list?
    Thanks! 🙂

    Reply
  5. Marilyn

    April 10, 2016 at 6:31 am

    I LOVE this!

    I showed this to my husband and we will be implementing this with our kids (we're using glass stones instead of jewels because my husband felt they were less "girly" for our boys lol).

    I have a question though.. How many jewels do your kids redeem for each reward? Also, do you have any others (rewards) that you may not have mentioned in your post?

    Reply
    • Ashley Phipps

      April 18, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      Hi! Great question. We base the rewards off of an attainable number of jewels for our family. So if my children can earn 7 jewels a day for example, that means they can earn 49 jewels total in a week. We know our kids will make mistakes and want them to improve but still have encouraging rewards along the way. So I base my rewards on how many they can earn a day. So for example, if I want them to be able to watch one tv show a day, but have to save up for staying up late...I might value 30 minutes of tv at 4 jewels, but staying up late at 8 jewels. It just kind of depends on how you want to value the rewards and how many jewels they can earn a day. When I created this post, the rewards I mentioned are the rewards we used. However, my kids love getting slurpies at the local gas station, so they can now save most of a week's worth of jewels up for a slurpie on a Saturday instead. It all just depends though on how your family works best, what rewards work best for your family and what behavior you really want to encourage! Best of luck!

      Reply

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